Welcome to an insightful journey into personal mastery, self-awareness, and the power of embracing your true calling. This article distills the wisdom shared in the powerful Accountability Call from March 11, 2022, led by a seasoned coach whose passion for human betterment shines through every word. The conversation navigates the complexities of self-identity, the invisible forces that shape our decisions, and the critical steps needed to become an authentic instrument for impact in the world.
Whether you’re on a path of coaching, mentoring, speaking, or simply seeking to live a more intentional life, the themes explored here will resonate deeply and offer practical guidance to elevate your journey.
Table of Contents
- 🌟 Setting the Stage: The Power of Connection and Ongoing Relationships
- 🧠 Revealing the Source: The Key to Authentic Success
- 🥋 Mastery and Missing Pieces: Lessons from Martial Arts and Readiness
- 🪞 Self-Illusion and the Three Keepers: Understanding Your Internal Programming
- 🪞 The Hijacked Mirror: How We See Ourselves vs. How the World Sees Us
- 🎭 Invention of Self: Are You Inventing Your Life or Letting Your Keepers Decide?
- 🔥 Embracing Your Calling: The Ultimate Catalyst for Impact
- 💪 Commitment, Action, and Authenticity: The Roadmap to Living Your Calling
- 💡 The Human Betterment Industry: Cutting Through Coping Mechanisms
- 🤝 Community Reflections: Instruments for Impact in Action
- ❓ FAQ: Navigating Your Path to Mastery and Impact
- 🚀 Taking Action: Your Next Steps Toward Mastery and Impact
🌟 Setting the Stage: The Power of Connection and Ongoing Relationships
The call begins with a warm acknowledgment of the community’s progress and highlights the importance of relationships that extend beyond formal programs or courses. The host emphasizes that the connection with participants is not a fleeting one but a continuous journey of growth and support.
One of the key takeaways is the distinction between transactional encounters—like those often experienced with teachers or professors—and the transformative, ongoing relationships cultivated in this mastery environment. This sets a tone of belonging and shared purpose that permeates the entire discussion.
He shares a recent experience on a weekly show called Breakfast with Champions, hosted by Sea Rock on Clubhouse, where the conversation revolved around reshaping perspectives and deepening understanding through shared learning. The emphasis here was not on selling or promoting products but on authentic dialogue and community upliftment.
This approach underscores a foundational principle: true coaching and mentoring are about sharing your journey, your challenges, and your sources of inspiration. It’s this transparency that invites others to trust and engage deeply.
🧠 Revealing the Source: The Key to Authentic Success
One of the most profound insights shared is the power of revealing the source of your success—not just to others but to yourself. This means acknowledging the mentors, books, experiences, and even failures that have shaped your path.
The host explains that vulnerability in sharing your source is often resisted because it exposes the work behind the scenes, the consistent effort rather than miraculous overnight success. Yet, it is precisely this honesty that builds credibility and inspires others.
For example, the speaker mentions redesigning a program called Rich Ladies to include a million-dollar scholarship for 100 women, part of an initiative to create one thousand new millionaires by 2025. This initiative is rooted in the belief that success is accessible and replicable, but only when the journey and source are openly shared.
By revealing your source, you disarm skepticism and invite others to believe that transformation is possible for them too, not just a lucky few.
🥋 Mastery and Missing Pieces: Lessons from Martial Arts and Readiness
The call takes a personal turn with a story about the host’s son Mateo and his experience with martial arts training. Mateo, a 15-year-old with interests in cryptocurrency and gaming, was encouraged to engage more deeply with discipline through martial arts.
Initially, Mateo faced a harsh reality check when training with a highly experienced coach—the Chief Performance Officer of the Israeli Army—who pushed him beyond his comfort zone. Mateo was physically challenged and even hurt, but this experience illuminated a vital lesson:
“What you do over here doesn’t matter until the world gets to respond from over there.”
This encapsulates the idea that readiness is more than preparation; it’s about how you respond and apply what you’ve learned when faced with real-world challenges. The host stresses that many people train and learn, yet falter because they haven’t developed the relationship to readiness—the ability to fully engage and apply their skills under pressure.
Moreover, the story highlights the unfairness and unpredictability of conflict, emphasizing that fights or altercations rarely follow rules or fairness. This metaphor extends to life’s challenges, where readiness and resilience become critical for navigating adversity.
🪞 Self-Illusion and the Three Keepers: Understanding Your Internal Programming
A central theme of the call is the concept of self-illusion—the identity we create and maintain, often unconsciously, to protect ourselves and navigate the world. The host introduces the idea of the three keepers, internal constructs formed between ages six and eighteen that shape our reactions, beliefs, and sense of self.
These keepers are largely unchangeable wiring but can be managed and reprogrammed through conscious awareness and action. The challenge is that our self-identity often becomes an illusion, masking the true potential within us.
To illustrate, the host shares his own story of almost becoming a police officer as a teenager, a path altered by external feedback and internal realization that he wasn’t aligned with that role. This pivot led him into financial services, where he spent 15 years. This narrative highlights how our identities can shift dramatically, yet often we resist such changes due to the hold of our keepers.
The host encourages listeners to recognize that we experience what we create, but too often, we aren’t actively creating—we’re reacting based on past programming. This leads to what he calls deceit and self-deception—believing in a false narrative that limits growth.
🪞 The Hijacked Mirror: How We See Ourselves vs. How the World Sees Us
One of the most vivid metaphors used is the “mirror on the wall,” which represents self-perception. The mirror is “hijacked” because it often reflects what we want to see or what our keepers want us to see, rather than the unvarnished truth.
The host humorously imagines a conversation with the mirror, illustrating how it appeases our ego rather than challenges us. The real challenge is that the world’s perception of us is beyond our control and often reveals truths about how effective and authentic we truly are.
This insight is crucial for anyone in coaching or leadership roles: the impact you make on others is the ultimate test of your alignment and authenticity.
🎭 Invention of Self: Are You Inventing Your Life or Letting Your Keepers Decide?
The host introduces the powerful idea that “you are the net result of an invention”. This means that your identity, your story, and how you show up are all creations—some conscious, many unconscious.
The question posed is: Are you actively inventing your life in response to your potential, or are you merely reacting to the limitations imposed by your keepers?
Examples from popular culture, such as the stories behind Inventing Anna and the Tinder Swindler, illustrate how people can create powerful narratives—sometimes deceptive ones—that shape their identities and how others perceive them.
This section challenges readers to examine their own inventions and decide whether these serve their highest good or merely protect old fears and limiting beliefs.
🔥 Embracing Your Calling: The Ultimate Catalyst for Impact
One of the most energizing parts of the conversation revolves around finding and living your calling. The host admits that early on, he found the concept “airy-fairy” but has since embraced it as a profound force that aligns purpose, intention, and action.
Calling is described as being “called by a higher, more powerful, not present thing.” It’s the internal pull toward something greater, the force that gets you moving even when obstacles arise.
The distinction between calling and purpose is clarified: while purpose is often seen as a fixed aim or aspiration, calling is the ongoing alignment and fulfillment of that aim in daily life.
Many people struggle to find their calling, especially those without external obligations or pressures. The host encourages embracing the challenge of creating your calling if it hasn’t been clearly discovered yet.
He shares a personal reflection on how being in front of people and lighting them up is a key part of his calling, describing the palpable energy when an audience is truly “lit” and engaged.
Living your calling is also about pushing back the keepers, the limiting internal narratives, and stepping fully into your authentic self.
💪 Commitment, Action, and Authenticity: The Roadmap to Living Your Calling
The call dives into the practical aspects of commitment, emphasizing that commitment is only evidenced by action. Having intentions or goals is not enough; it’s the consistent follow-through that transforms dreams into reality.
Using the example of podcast equipment he owns but hasn’t yet fully utilized, the host illustrates how owning resources or knowledge without action is a form of self-deception.
Announcing your intentions publicly can be a powerful motivator because it creates accountability—not to others, but to yourself.
He encourages breaking down large aspirational goals into manageable daily or weekly actions. Even doing one small act regularly is a step toward creating momentum and reinforcing your commitment.
Authenticity in commitment also means being honest about where you are and what you’ve done, rather than pretending or projecting an image that doesn’t align with your reality.
💡 The Human Betterment Industry: Cutting Through Coping Mechanisms
The host offers a candid critique of the human betterment industry, describing it as a “giant arena of coping mechanisms” where many people get stuck making do rather than making real progress.
The challenge is to cut through the noise and your own “bullshit” to get to where you truly want to be.
This requires a daily practice of asking:
- What’s missing in my life?
- If this missing piece were present, how would it transform my experience?
Drawing inspiration from a story about Michael Jordan reviewing his game footage, the host emphasizes the importance of focusing on what’s missing rather than what’s wrong or broken.
🤝 Community Reflections: Instruments for Impact in Action
The call also features powerful contributions from community members who share insights about their own journeys, including the importance of sharing knowledge to elevate others and embracing the role of being an instrument for impact.
One participant reflects on the ripple effect of coaching starting at home, raising children with intention, and engaging in community efforts like PTO to create lasting change.
These reflections reinforce the core message that impact begins in everyday actions and relationships.
❓ FAQ: Navigating Your Path to Mastery and Impact
Q1: How do I identify the “three keepers” that limit me?
The three keepers are internal narratives and programming formed during childhood and adolescence that influence how you react to opportunities and challenges. To identify them, start by noticing recurring fears, self-doubts, or limiting beliefs that arise automatically. Reflect on your past experiences from ages 6 to 18 and consider how they shaped these patterns.
Q2: What does it mean to reveal the source of my success?
Revealing your source means openly sharing the mentors, books, experiences, and consistent effort that contributed to your growth. It’s about being vulnerable and authentic to build trust and inspire others, showing that success is a process, not a miracle.
Q3: How can I overcome self-illusion and align with my true calling?
Overcoming self-illusion requires conscious reflection, honest self-assessment, and commitment to action. Engage in practices that challenge your limiting beliefs, seek feedback from trusted peers, and experiment with new roles or activities that resonate with your deeper purpose.
Q4: What is the difference between calling and purpose?
Purpose is often a broader aim or aspiration you were born for, while calling is the active, ongoing alignment with that purpose. Calling pulls you forward and motivates daily actions that fulfill your purpose in real time.
Q5: How do I maintain commitment without being driven by fear of judgment?
Commitment rooted in authentic intention is evidenced by consistent action, not by external pressure or fear. Announcing your goals can create accountability, but true commitment comes from aligning your actions with your calling and personal values, not from fear of judgment.
🚀 Taking Action: Your Next Steps Toward Mastery and Impact
The path to becoming an authentic instrument for impact begins with self-awareness and intentional action. Reflect on the following:
- Reveal your source: Identify and share the influences and experiences that have shaped your journey.
- Recognize your keepers: Become aware of limiting internal narratives and begin the work of managing them.
- Embrace your calling: Tune into the higher pull that motivates and aligns your life’s work.
- Commit to action: Break down your goals into daily or weekly steps and follow through with integrity.
- Engage with community: Share your journey and support others in their growth.
Remember, mastery is not about perfection but about consistent, courageous action. It’s about getting into the game, making mistakes, learning, and evolving.
The host leaves us with a powerful assignment to reflect on any parts of our personality or public persona that might be projections or pretenses. Authenticity is the foundation of true impact.
As you embark on this adventure, embrace the darkness of uncertainty and change, knowing that light and growth always follow.
Be powerful today. Be safe. And keep lighting up the world.
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